That's me done
That’s me done. All four children
through school.
Eldest daughter says “grandkids next
dad”. Arse. I thought I was clear.
Earlier this week, fourth in line for the
family throne gave his yr 13 cohort a group cuddle, his favourite teachers a
nod, and legged it with some stage booty.
Well done son, 13 yrs in school.
That morning they’d walked up the school
driveway with balloons, cheered by the rest of the school. So cool.
Thank you to the amazing teachers that
added value to him and to all my kids.
I’m hoping they returned the favours.
I slammed a few tequila’s before this prizegiving.
Not my usual habit, but this one being the last … it lived up to expectations, a
good old Waiheke ‘being sort of formal’ event.
Think Harry Potter meets the Adams Family
doing ‘Who wants to be a Millionaire’, all live from the prison lunchroom.
Funny costumes, obedient children. School stand school sit – no talking from
the bleachers.
There’ll be a detention in the mail for
sure.
I’ve often been one to think on the
counter-currents in high school. The great stuff, and the equal and opposite
forces of obedience and irrelevance.
I happily own some of my struggles with high schooling.
I have what I consider collateral damage from my time at the chalkface. A bipolar type affliction with a side of category B tourettes.
I have what I consider collateral damage from my time at the chalkface. A bipolar type affliction with a side of category B tourettes.
Wife says I need to tone it down. Fat
chance.
For three out of four of my kids, things
went rather concrete pill when an old-schooler took the helm at our local high
school, kicking to touch our playcentre parents progressive thoughts about
learning. No … no no no no.
Went to anger management, helped a bit.
Since then slightly more whacky leadership
has changed the game at our local lately, so I guess that’s a start.
But there’s still hundreds of children all
wearing the same clothes.
They are popped in rooms, stratified by age
and sometimes supposed smarts, often spend much time sitting at desks, and do
this four to 5 times a day in unrelated modules, each time with mostly just one
adult in the room. And there might be 30 of them at a time. I ask you.
Time Out, gotta change, here’s why -
As a species we are lining up for a good
rogering and we need more than anything our young to break the mould we have
lovingly made for them. Or we will assume the accepted position and take what’s
coming.
That means setting them free to make their
own choices early in the piece. With us alongside, they need real world stuff.
Be excited and frightened, fall over, fuck up. Lets not leave it till they’re
18 – extended adolescence in unproductive yrs.
We grownups have shaped subservience for
our kids, just as was administered us. Lets not anymore.
They’re the ones navigating the human
condition from here on, we don’t need them bridled, tethered, ordered or
surveiled.
Same for teachers.
The best teachers are the free ones. It’s
hard work getting free, you gotta fight some rearguard while still keeping your
registration.
Here’s to the back end of national standards
– whatever that doublespeak was supposed to have meant, and hopefully some space
for teachers to fully engage, allow interactions to grow
organically/creatively, not be pre-determined outcomes. Set teachers free to do it their way,
integrate community during school time. Been here b4 in a previous blog on
schooling.
Auckland University of Technology professor
Welby Ings has a lot to say about this in his recent book ‘Disobedient
Teaching’, as does NZ’s Dr Robin Youngson in his book on changing the health
system ‘Time to Care’.
Different sectors but same biz, Youngson
suggesting that our health system is predicated on the british public school
model, and until we actively deconstruct these top down factories, moving other
sectors along in a dynamic world, will continue to be abrasive.
Maybe still a place for it in China for now,
big on industrial and manufacturing.
I’m the boss, do what you’re told still
rolls. It’ll pass.
But not NZ. We’re little.
We don’t have any choice but to be sideways
innovators.
My older son’s prizegiving was a contrasting
affair. Different school, bit more progressive.
The senior students ran the event, the
stage was theirs not the teachers, and they invited various teachers, parents and
guest speakers up to the stage to speak and present.
His parent/teacher evenings were similar.
He would run the show preparing his own report, presenting to a small gathering
of a few of his teachers and his parents, followed by a 3 way korero.
Impressive process, he had to study for these
evenings, produce powerpoint/media/data, host the event, go through his
subjects with contingencies for the stuff he’d missed. Not easy for a teen, there’s nowhere to hide
for students with process like this. More guide on the side than sage on the
stage, teachers are mentoring all the way. We got contacted often as parents. Teachers, parents and students working together, my kind of co-teaching.
Years ago I was hired as a teacher in a
small progressive Auckland high school.
The interview panel of 4 comprised the
principal, a Board of Trustees member and two students. Each had a vote. A
couple of clients on the interview panel, well who would’ve thought ?
We parents are every colour of the rainbow
when it comes to what we want schools to be, and some love the old fashioned
top-down stuff. We all do what we feel
is best.
Is obedience and consistency a 24hr
essential ?
It was strictly so at a school I directed
some promo videos for a while back.
On top of the hill by the motorway and
taking no nonsense, one of Aucklands’ esteemed boys schools. It was like going
behind enemy lines.
A couple of choices on the menu for the
boys there.
Toe the line or don’t. Don’t and you’re
gone. No correspondence, just winners and losers. Which you gonna choose? Do
what you’re told, and a bunch more opportunities open up.
The video we made was a sales tool to
recruit students from asia.
Many families like old school. They can be
more interested in outcomes than process. And maybe process is important but
you like the old school type.
Kids are graded like chickens, nice and tidy,
you know where you stand.
I know parents who are happy with their
children’s journey through this school. And I have friends in their 40’s still
in counseling, each pointing a finger at same school.
Me I’m a turmeric tea lefty, into student
agency and reversing the roles. For a lot of it, rip it up and start again.
What is teaching, learning, education ?
What could it be ?
I’ve always been amazed at what teens are
capable of when honoured, backed and trusted. Top down directive on our teens,
making decisions for them, is to me the very picture of having low expectations
of them. Interesting that old fashioned schools whose modus operandi can lean
to the militant, will often spiel ‘high expectations’ in the prospectus etc. Oh
the irony.
My advice to my children has always gone
something like this:
It’s not what we can’t do that scares us,
it’s what we’re aware we can do.
So, park the scare.
Find something you’re good at and love
doing, and be sure that it makes your soul feel good, ie it adds up to
something bigger than you.
Then spend however many years it takes
working out how to provide food and shelter from it. The roads that lead there are rarely evident,
full of likely twists and turns. And
don’t neglect the ‘soul feelgood’ variable.
Don’t expect to be employed. With the
concept of ‘being employed’ highly dynamic, there’s no guarantee having a job
will be a keeper.
Technology is an exponential disruptor in
every game.
Be scanning constantly for small
opportunities to start your own business, maybe collaborate with others and
realize it will need tweaking and reinventing constantly.
No one is a complete arsehole, so build
your skill at working positively with difficult people.
So my son who’s just finishing now, what’s
he going to do next year?
They call it a gap yr but really it’s a
gap-it year, the one where you run from institutionalized education then look
back from the city limits for some overview and context.
He’s so excited. So am I, I think it’s
marvelous.
His older brother did something similar,
worked and travelled.
My two girls did the straight to Uni thing,
works for them, but the boys just wanna rock out.
However our kids burn the toast, it’s weird
for them to have to get a note from teacher one day, then take charge of making
major calls the next.
Plenty of my chums continue to advocate
decisions for their kids when they reach this stage … I get it, it seems safer,
more focused. Maybe.
Back to the local prizegiving. They ran it
over two nights and I missed the first one. Sounded like the best.
Jnr came home animated re what the guest
speaker had to say. He was a local guy that took years to find where he
fitted. He now creates film scores as a
sound designer for global clients. Unusual but well valid work.
My son was all ears - both our boys are
passionate musicians … you mean you can make a decent bob out of this ?
What said speaker did suggest to the
students, is that chaos and disruption are good and decisions that don’t work
are essential – gotta have ‘em, and one here for the school’s deans -
disobedience is an important component – a craft to develop in order to
navigate successfully.
I can hear the tinfoil trays pop as the
schools law enforcers, DP’s deans and what have you, heave back the tramadol.
My wife and I are considering offering some
form of scholarship for the local high school. It would be for the standout
student who has challenged the school system. Not sure they’d want our award,
might still make the suggestion.
For all the strutting and fretting I’ve
done about my kids high schooling, they’ll prob be fine and I’m not far behind.
They have a mum and a dad, a home, lots of good chums and aunties in the wings.
Their mum and I give them a bit of wiggle
room re deciding their food/shelter paths, the door is always open, always
space to doss down, lick their wounds, regroup and have another go.
Again thank you to their teachers, some of
whom have been outstanding miracle workers despite the odds. I hope you make
significant wins in the pay rounds.
I hope you embrace the changes coming in
how you work, fearlessly and with open arms. You have communities of
families/businesses and other resource at your physical and online door.
Use us, come on out, welcome modern
learning and student agency.
Lead or be left behind.
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